Intimate relationships with partners are hard work and need constant management. They are like a garden: You cannot have a beautiful garden unless you pull the weeds on a regular basis and feed the plants with fertiliser. So it is with relationships: we need to constantly pull the weeds, fertilise for new growth/strength and balance the sunshine and rain that specific plants get. I tell you, lucky I like gardening and know which fertilisers to use!
Personal development is like pulling the weeds. The more we work on ourselves and understand how we operate in the world around us, the better our personal relationships get. To chip the soil and fertilise a relationship, some tools are required. Date night is a biggie in our home - we have a date once a week. Just me and Mr Paul. Sometimes we are too tired to talk but that's okay because we are just together, seeking the intimate company and closeness that we don't get from our other relationships.
My favourite "gardening" tools though are two books that I never tire of reading: The Five Love Languages and Personality Plus. Personality Plus can be purchased online and delivered to your door (or I have four in stock @$22.00 ea). Purchase The Five Love Languages from me (I have ONE in stock today) for $22.00 (plus postage).
Go on, do some relationship gardening today and watch your relationship become blooming good.
PS: These two books make for excellent Hen's party, wedding or anniversary gifts.